We’ve all been impacted by mental health and trauma at some point or another in our lives.
Most of us carry some of pretty heavy experiences and even though we know everyone else is probably enduring something similar we choose to keep our guard up and rarely let very few in to the inner workings of our lives.
A few key factors come into play, and even though the stigma of mental health is slowly eroding these factors keep alot of people from talking or sharing and it is literally killing people out there.
Fear of reprisal from our peers
We all have had a person or friend that we trusted with our secrets or most vulnerable moments just to have them share them with others during a falling out or a moment of disagreement.
I cannot stress how much damage this can do to an individual in their time of need. If you’re out there telling peoples secrets in the heat of the moment or weaponizing another persons shortcomings, you’re not only burning your own trust and credibility to others at an exponential rate but also pushing this person closer to the breaking point.
Pride or ego-personality
Learning to set aside or work with your pride or ego is not an easy task and a big reason why we fight getting the help we need. This can come from a number of issues, for men and women it is about believing there may be something different about you.
Admitting that you are broken and not picture perfect like a lot of society portrays people to be is a huge step in your own mind and integral to moving onward to seeking help.
Most people undergoing this or refusing the help are conditioned by their upbringing, the old-school mentality of being the tough person will only erode you over time.
They say Anxiety is the result of someone remaining strong for too long and the brain holding onto weight it simply should not have to.
Personal feelings of difference
Nothing makes us more unique than our experiences good or bad. But this also come with a cost and this cost is that of feeling outcast from society or fearing that many peoples opinions of us will change when we disclose our problems or personal experiences.
If we only knew how many people suffer from a form of mental illness or quirk we would be more prone to being open about being different and our sense of feeling alone would soon wash away from a lot of us.
Re-living the moment or trauma
Most will simply refuse to share due to the fact that even discussing such events will make them relive these experiences. A person suffering significant trauma has replayed these events over and over again in their mind that it is almost second nature to think about.
It doesn’t take much for these emotions to re-surface. Dependent on the emotions involved with these experiences they can become very crippling to relive. Even if it is just for a brief time frame it feels like an eternity for most.
Not knowing the best course
Another really important factor is that a lot of people do not know how to talk about their problems. This is a huge issue for men and comes with a loss of pride and fear of being chastised by those around them. Women typically are and will always be better when it comes to vocalizing and expressing their emotions, still there are many that suffer from this and struggle daily.
With the amount of help and expertise available to individuals and the accessibility of such tools via the internet sometimes referring someone you know to sources or aids could benefit them hugely they may just simply not understand or know the options available to them